A mothers success

I live a life as a mother that is busy. As most moms do. Whether we are stay-at-home-moms, working moms, blogging moms, moms who babysit friends children during the day, or moms who tend to family members as a daily job. The point is that all moms are busy. The only people who understand the life of a busy mom, is another busy mom who is or went through it all when her children lived at home. I can even say that there are dads out there who know how busy moms can be. Let's be honest, these men are not as dull headed or absent minded as we'd like to think they are. They observe us too.

One of the hardest conversations I have with people who aren't parents about being a mom and a stepmom, is why I've chosen this life. Why did I accomplish a dream that wasn't my original dream? Wouldn't you do something for yourself rather than chase children around all day long? Are you going to go back to school? Why are you taking care of kids that aren't biologically yours? And the question that I can actually feel physical pain in my heart thats asked, "Why did you give up your dreams to live someone else's?" That question is probably the only one that I would lock myself in my bedroom and cry thinking about. So I sit here and start thinking... do you remember the question all your teachers, parents and your family would ask "what do you want to be when you grow up?" My dream job was to travel the world by back pack and write novels. Oh, the way I imagined my adulthood, would be something right out of movie. Like a gypsy, living with the flow of the world, falling in love with a new man in every city I would visit and somehow he'd find a page in my novels as I write them. Realistically speaking, that wasn't a dream job. That was a fantasy. I became pregnant at 18 and had my first child at 19. The comments then were that I've already wasted my life. There goes everything! I will never be the person I wanted to be because I was (as told by a family member) stupid. I had a kid young!

While it's easy to sit here and think about how I could've done things differently, I have to remind myself that if this wasn't the life I was supposed to live, then I wouldn't be here living it. How many of us have had kids young and still, we are all doing different things in life, but all we can relate to is that we are mothers or fathers. Just like we change in life, our dreams also change. If this weren't true, so many college students wouldn't have the chance to change their majors so many times. The older we get, the more we understand ourselves and who we are. Your dreams CAN evolve! My grandfather told me when I was four that he asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up and I told him I wanted to be a mommy. At 18, the guy I was dating had actually asked if I wanted a family and we agreed that we would let nature take its course and that we weren't trying to prevent a pregnancy from happening. This was no accident. Although I can agree now nearly 9 years later, we were young and so blind to reality when making this decision.

I'm 27 years old, I have two beautiful daughters, I'm engaged to a man who has two boys of his own and we have a baby in womb to tie our picture perfect family together. My dream has gone from a hopeless romantic novelist, to a Mom who gets to help run my partners company behind the scenes at the office. My dream is to help encourage him as he builds his dreams, and to be home with our children during the process. I get watch our lives grow. I get to be a reason why he is so successful. I get to be a reason why our children have learned to read and ride a bike, and teach them everything they'll need to know to be a happy and caring partner with someone one day. My dream is to be close. In 30 years from now, I picture myself walking onto my front porch with my children following behind me holding food as we walk onto the lawn that is set up with a dinner table and my Daughters and Son in laws are there laughing with us, the grandchildren are all running around and we're all just happy to be spending time together. My dream is no less than anyone else's who decided to go to Harvard Law school, Or become a model, or anything for that matter. Don't let others question who you are. If you are working hard for what you love, that is everything you're supposed to do to be successful.

I am a successful mother. And so are you.

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